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  • How I Took Back My Time and Started Thriving Again

    How I Took Back My Time and Started Thriving Again

    Daily writing prompt
    How do you waste the most time every day?
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    Time is fleeting. That is a known fact. You blink, and suddenly you are in your seventiesor your child is now enunciating full sentences like a literature wizard. Where did all the time go? we often ask ourselves.

    It is so easy to let time slip away without being intentional about it. That is the lazy route. The “I am just relaxing” cop-out we tell ourselves.

    Recently, I have been forced to spend my time more intentionally and productively. But before I could get into that headspace, I had to ask myself: Where do I spend most of my time each day in ways that do not serve my goals? And then it hit me. It is social media: the holy grail of instant gratification and dopamine rush. The fear of missing out. The constant need to keep up with the lives of people who do not even know I exist.

    Is it worth it? I asked myself.

    Now, I am not trying to be a flag bearer for toxic positivity. But I truly believe that every second that passes in our lives should be viewed as an investment, an investment in becoming the best version of ourselves and reaching our full potential. And yes, there is time for rest. Intentional rest. Rest that does not involve mindlessly scrolling and wasting valuable time.

    If I were to tally the minutes, hours, and days I have spent on social media, it would probably amount to years—years lost over almost three decades of life. That is scary. Time that could have been better invested in honing my craft, learning new skills, nurturing relationships, or being present with family. The list is endless.

    After reflecting deeply on how much time I have wasted, I made a decision. I deleted the time-wasting, anxiety-inducing, garbage-input apps. Gone. They might come back one day. But only after I have developed habits so deeply ingrained that my first instinct when I have free time is not to reach for my phone to scroll.

    Since ditching those apps, I realized it was actually an addiction. And you cannot thrive while addicted. It is distracting. It is soul-sucking. It took a bit of thinking, reflection, and a shift in my life circumstances for me to see just how much time I had been giving away.

    Do I miss knowing the latest dance trend or getting the tea on the drama between podcast bros and women just living their lives? Yes, a little. But the amount of time I now have to be productive far outweighs the fear of missing out. I will gladly be the “out-of-touch, cannot-relate” one in the group chat if it means I am growing—every single day, even just a fraction.

    So let me ask you:
    How do you waste the most time every day? And are you ready to do something about it?

  • The Motivation Secret No One Talks About: This Trick Will Change Everything

    The Motivation Secret No One Talks About: This Trick Will Change Everything

    Motivation can be hard to come by sometimes. It is like waiting on a force to get you off the bed, out the door, or honestly, to just do something you have always fantasized about. We have all been there. You have goals, plans, and dreams that light a fire inside you, but when it comes to actually doing the work? That is where things start to fall apart.

    Here is the hard truth. Motivation is not something you wait for. It is something you build. It is a system, not a spark.

    So how do you stay consistent with habits you plan to build? If there is a task I want to complete or do consistently, such as exercising or launching a side hustle, one thing I always do is build systems of accountability around me. Literally from every angle you can think of. When motivation is low, systems keep you going. When you want to quit, accountability reminds you why you started.

    So if you are tired of waiting to feel ready, here are six powerful ways to keep yourself accountable and stay motivated every single day.

    1. Tell Everyone What You Are Working On

    This one may feel uncomfortable, but it is powerful. The moment you speak your goal out loud, it becomes real. Tell your partner, your coworkers, your best friend, or post it on your Instagram story. When people know what you are working on, they will ask you about it. And trust me, nothing gets you back on track faster than someone casually asking, “Hey, how is that project going?”

    Social accountability makes you feel seen. It creates a sense of responsibility that pushes you to follow through, even when you would rather not.

    2. Build a Daily Non-Negotiable Routine

    Motivation does not survive decision fatigue. If you have to choose every day whether or not to do the thing, you will eventually choose no. The key is to remove that choice by building it into your routine.

    I treat my goals like appointments. They go on the calendar. They get a time slot. No excuses. Whether it is writing, working out, or studying, I make it part of the day like brushing my teeth. The more automatic your habits become, the less you rely on motivation.

    3. Set Alarms with Personal Messages

    Alarms are great, but alarms with personality are better. Set your phone to buzz with messages that feel personal. My favorite alarm literally says, “Your future self is waiting. Do not let her down.” Another one says, “This goal will not chase itself.”

    These little reminders add emotional weight to your day. They do more than just alert you. They speak to your purpose.

    4. Track Your Progress Visually

    Progress is addictive. When you can see your effort stacking up, it motivates you to keep going. Whether it is a bullet journal, a habit tracking app, or a paper calendar with big red Xs, visual progress is powerful.

    I use a whiteboard next to my desk. Every day I complete a task, I put a big green checkmark. Seeing the chain grow makes me want to keep it going.

    Your brain loves completion. Use that to your advantage.

    5. Reward Your Effort, Not Just Your Outcome

    Sometimes the reward system gets overlooked. But rewarding yourself for showing up is just as important as celebrating the win. Hit a small milestone? Celebrate. Stayed consistent for a week? Treat yourself to something small but meaningful.

    This trains your brain to associate effort with joy. And when something feels good, you will naturally want to keep doing it.

    6. Get an Accountability Buddy or Be Your Own Coach

    Find someone who is also working toward a goal and check in with each other. It can be a friend, a coworker, or someone you connect with online. If that is not an option, become your own accountability coach. Send yourself daily check-in texts. Record voice memos. Write short reflection notes in your planner.

    Having someone—or even your own system—to answer to gives your goals structure. It creates follow-through where motivation would normally fade.

    Final Thoughts: Systems Over Sparks

    Here is the truth. You do not need more motivation. You need better systems. You need structure. You need accountability from every angle.

    Start with just one of the methods above. Then layer another. Build your own ecosystem of success. Because when motivation disappears—and it will—your systems will keep you grounded and moving forward.

    The best part? Once you start to see results, the motivation comes rushing back. And this time, you are ready for it.

    So, what goal are you ready to stay accountable for?

    Let me know. I will hold you to it.